When someone close to your passes away, especially in the case of a spouse, you'll face the challenging proposition of dealing with your grief while you handle responsibilities for the funeral and deal with people offering their condolences. It's important to also make caring for yourself a priority. While many people will call or drop over to see how you're doing, you shouldn't necessarily rely on outside assistance. Instead, you need to make a commitment to self-care; if you need access to some resources in the community, speak to the funeral director at the funeral home. He or she can provide the contacts that you can use to take care of yourself. Here are some things that you need to make a priority.
Dealing with Your Grief Positively
Some people deal with grief by holding their feelings inside, and that isn't overly healthy. Others turn to alcohol or drugs to numb the pain. In the wake of your loved one's funeral, make sure that you have a healthy outlet for dealing with your grief. This can include making an appointment to speak to a local grief counselor; your funeral director can provide some recommendations for you. Failing professional help, make sure that you have a friend who you can talk to. Picking a friend rather than a family member can be helpful in this situation, as your friend of choice may be able to remain more neutral.
Making Nutrition a Priority
Many people fail to eat well in the days after a loved one's death; they may not have much of an appetite, or may be so busy with funeral arrangements that simply not make time to eat. Care for yourself by not only by eating but also by eating healthy. If you don't cook, seek out a community food service that can deliver hot and healthy meals for you. Again, your funeral director can likely provide a contact name. Otherwise, ask people close to you if they'd be willing to supply food. Many people want to help after a funeral, and making this request can give people a chance.
Finding Ways to Spend Your Time
While part of the grieving process might include quiet reflection at home, you shouldn't allow yourself to get shut off from the world outside. It's useful to find something to occupy at least some of your time. Many people turn to volunteering, as caring for other people can be a valuable way to feel better and care for yourself.